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It may be a life-long dream, or an idea you’ve finally embraced after years of being single — whatever your situation — I bet somewhere in the depths of your mind you have a nagging, desperate feeling that marriage is never going to happen for you.
I know exactly how you feel.
I was single into my early 50’s — and an expert on being needy and desperate — but I changed all that. I’ve been married to the love of my life now for 15 years and I can help you do the same.
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by Virginia Clark
on May 3, 2025
Choosing your life partner is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. When you chose the man who’ll be beside you every day, it can’t help but directly impact every aspect of your life.
So when I see women looking for love who approach finding their “soulmate” with so little concern about it’s true importance, I feel overwhelming frustration. They meet and date perfectly good men, men who want to be in a committed relationship; but then they treat these men as if they were nothing special, as if there were plenty more where they came from. They make the same mistakes with men over and over again, get the same results, and are in complete denial about their own behavior. This tells me they don’t take themselves or dating seriously enough.
I’ve also seen women transform into adolescent girls when they date; they have no regard to consequences. When they do this they diminish themselves and of course get less than spectacular results with men. How can you stop sabotaging your dates and give looking for love the importance it needs?
Here are the 3 common mistakes you may be making:
- You break your own rules: How many times have you changed your mind on a date and let yourself be persuaded to break your own rules? The rule I see women break the most often is about when to have sex. You know what I’m talking about. You’ve determined you won’t go to bed with a man until you both agree to be monogamous. You’ve promised yourself not to sleep with a man who is also sleeping with other women. But as soon as you begin to date a man you’re attracted too, you get caught up in the moment and like an impressionable young girl, you give in. You get intimate too soon with a man you could really care about. It changes everything and you’ve hardly gotten to know each other. Breaking this rule rarely works out in the long run. Here are some other rules you might find yourself breaking: you pursue him instead of being patient. You give more attention to him than he’s giving to you. Or you lose yourself and make his needs more important than your own.
- You don’t fix what’s not working: Human beings tend to like the familiar. We have a comfort zone we find hard to leave unless we’re really pushed. Life-changing experiences like illness or a car accident will propel you to make new and daring choices. But when life is just going along as usual, you can get lazy and avoid making the changes you need to be more successful with men. One example is the fear of “making waves” in a relationship. Instead of speaking up for yourself, which can be a real challenge, you’ll go with the flow to keep the peace. Or if you’re used to having your guard up around men, you don’t risk being hurt by allowing yourself to be vulnerable. You just stick to being the way you’ve always been because it’s easier than facing the fear of the change you need to make.
- You haven’t handled your subconscious sabotage: We all have subconscious sabotage; it keeps us eating too much, buying what we don’t need and pushing good men away. Yet it’s something you can change once you become aware of it. The subconscious controls your habitual ways of being in relationships. For example, it will show up as a lack of self-worth or confidence, which makes it hard for you to set boundaries. You have to recognize what the habitual thoughts are that aren’t working for you and change them. When a subconscious belief that is hurting you is made conscious (when you become aware of it) it will get “neutralized” and no longer “run you.” There are many ways to get at your subconscious beliefs, but three excellent ones are hypnotherapy, coaching, and guided imagery
Looking for love is a serious business
If you’re really serious about looking for love ,you have to take the bull by the horns and do these three things. They will require courage. You have to stop breaking your own rules, change the things you do that you know aren’t working, and finally, find out how you’ve been subconsciously sabotaging your relationships.
If you take your search for a good man seriously and do these 3 things — when you find him you’ll know exactly what to do to keep him.
by Virginia Clark
on April 10, 2025
If your first date with a man is only mildly interesting and leaves you feeling rather blah, you may be tempted to write him off and move on. Beware: this might be a dating mistake that could affect the rest of your life.
First dates are deceiving. You may decide within the first 10 minutes of meeting someone that you’re not attracted to him and that will color your perception of him for the entire evening. Once you’ve told yourself, “I don’t feel that spark,” your mind could close to the possibility of it ever being kindled.
Since most men and women are looking for instant sexual attraction on the first date, if it’s not there, a second date is out of the question. Without that “special feeling,” you see no reason to see him again.
But there’s something you need to know. It’s been found that about 75% of married women say they married a man who was not their “type.” Now think about that. A man who’s your type turns you on, he’s the man that you spot across a crowded room and are drawn to without being able to help yourself.
That means that if these women married men that they normally wouldn’t be interested in, at some point in the dating process the man became their type. Over time they developed a physical attraction to a man who they normally wouldn’t consider a good match.
What does that mean for you? It means that physical chemistry [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on January 11, 2025
Growing up in America is taking longer than it did in the 1970’s. Kids used to be up and out of their parent’s homes at 17 or 18; now kids are living with mom and dad well into their 20’s.
So it’s not surprising that the age for getting married and having children has also been pushed ahead; woman and men are waiting longer to marry and start families.
There are major benefits to marrying later in life. If you’re single and feel you’ve missed the boat after 40, it’s not true!
Here are a few great reasons that getting married after 40 rocks!
1. You’ve learned that “this too shall pass”
By the time you reach 40 you’ve been through many of life’s highs and lows. You’ve had times of celebration and times of mourning and regret. When you’re young it feels that heartbreak will last forever, but now you know that’s not the case and the one thing you can count on is change. Yes, this too shall pass.
2. You no longer care so much what other people think.
This is the freedom that comes with maturity. After 40 you are more willing to take greater risks and be more adventurous with your choices of life style and the men you date. Your family and friend’s no longer [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on December 26, 2024
New Year’s Eve is one of those “couple centric holidays” that many of us dread. The pressure of not having a date on New Year’s Eve can be more daunting than not having one for Valentine’s Day.
Add to that the fear that how we end last year will have a bearing on how the New Year will unfold. It’s a superstition that’s hard to fight. If you have no one to kiss at midnight, it doesn’t bode well for your love life in the year ahead. It can leave you feeling totally discouraged and hopeless about finding love…ever.
It’s natural to feel depressed being dateless on the biggest “date night” of the year. You know there’s a fabulous party going on but you don’t know where and anyway, you’re not invited. You won’t have the opportunity to wear your favorite dress and heels. You won’t be dancing with a funny hat and blowing a noisemaker at midnight. You won’t be toasting with expensive champagne or looking deeply into a man’s eyes as you embrace and share a passionate kiss.
But you know what, you can have that experience next year if that’s what you want, and in the meantime you can have [continue reading…]
