Could You Be Missing Mr. Right?

Do you judge men too quickly?

Being quick to judge can actually be a habit!

If you instantly draw conclusions about men based on their appearance, their jobs or their cars, you may be missing out on a lot of good men, not to mention Mr. Right.

Being judgmental is part of being human but the important question to ask yourself is how much is judgement getting in your way?

Judgement based solely on outside appearances and superficial criteria will hurt you and sap the enjoyment out of your life. If you draw shallow conclusions about the men you meet based on superficial criteria you are making it harder for yourself to find you true partner.

A good example of how a habit of judgment can hurt you is my client Barbara. Among other things, she insisted that she was turned off by men who wear cheap watches. If a man showed up for a date with one on his wrist she would write him off as a loser. She would say to me as a challenge, “that’s just the way I am.” Do you see how self-defeating this attitude can be? It took a lot for her to stop judging men by their outside appearance.

What helped her to think differently was that told her about a man friend of mine who is a very successful business man. I know he wears an inexpensive Timex watch and drugstore sunglasses. He does this because he misplaces things easily and doesn’t want to risk losing a $10,000 rolex. You would never know how successful he is by looking at him, he is a modest dresser because clothes aren’t important to him.

The most important reason to control your judgement is this — it leaves no room for love. Judgement will hold you separate from a man and it will put a wall between you that he will feel.

There is a whole world of experience going on under the surface in us and around us, if you only perceive with your eyes, you will miss the depth of what is going on.

As St. Exupery states in his book THE LITTLE PRINCE, “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye.”