We’ve all been there, a phone clutched tightly in hand waiting for him to text, email or call. So afraid you might miss him, you carry the phone from room to room, from place to place.
You check your phone a hundred times while you refresh the mailbox again and again. You send an email to yourself just to make sure the mail program is working properly.
If your friend calls you don’t pick up. Instead of welcoming her call, you’re annoyed by the interruption and it reminds you how it hurts that it’s not him.
Afraid he may forget you, you decide to text him first, just to casually check in and say, “hi.” Your fingers hit the keys and type, but then you panic and stop yourself just in time.
As if all this isn’t enough to put yourself through, there are questions you keep asking in your head; “Does he like me?” “Did I do something wrong?” “Is he thinking of me?”
You hate yourself for feeling needy, for being unable to focus on anything else. Who is this person so consumed just waiting for his call? We’ve all been that person and it’s not fun.
So what can you do to stop this craziness and stop waiting for his call?
First of all, you have to stop pushing him away with your desperate energy. It doesn’t matter that he can’t see you; he will feel it because we’re all energetically connected.
This may sound a little “woo-woo” but I’ve experienced this truth time and time again. When you meet someone you like you become subconsciously “attached” to each other. This happens at a deeper level than your conscious thoughts and can’t be put into words. It’s something you feel as opposed to something you think.
Even if we send a text we hope will be perceived as a casual “hi,” it won’t disguise our neediness or desperation. It will be “felt” by the receiver for what it really is.
There’s no hiding what’s going on with you even if he gets in touch. If you’ve felt desperate waiting for him, no matter how you pretend you haven’t, he’ll know it.
How To Stop Waiting For His Call:
There is only one remedy; you have to change your energy by distracting your thoughts away from him. As hard as this might be, you must let go of the phone and turn it off for a good, long period of time. If you can’t do this on our own, put yourself in an environment where you have to — go to a movie or swim laps at the gym.
As your mind gets distracted by other things the energy between you will start to shift. He’ll sense your new state of mind and be more inclined to reach out to you.
When you’ve learned to stop waiting for his call you’ll have a new healthy dating pattern. It will keep your energetic connection clear of your negative emotions and increase the chance of that text, email or phone call coming in that much faster.