Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

Virginia, I can’t believe what I just did! Steven texted me last night, “I miss you” and that’s all he wrote. So I texted back “I don’t believe you, why haven’t I heard from you in 3 days??? What’s going on???” I haven’t heard from him all day and I just want to die, I’ve probably lost him for good. Help!!! Becky

When a relationship doesn’t go the way we want we get scared. Becky’s impulsive reaction to Steven’s text is all too common. Like Becky, it’s easy to jump to conclusions and lose perspective.

When we think a man is pulling away we experience it as a loss of power and we instinctively go on the attack to get it back. We blame him for making us feel victimized and we lash out.

None of us likes confrontation and yet that’s exactly what we jump to when we fear we’re losing a man’s interest. Emotionally we go from 0 to 100 in seconds and, like Becky, end up acting recklessly and [continue reading…]

When I was 42, I thought I’d met the love of my life. But at that time, all new relationships made me anxious and insecure. I’d been disappointed in love so many times that I started second guessing my choices in men.

I hoped Christopher would be different. He was my age, and like me had never been married. He lived in San Francisco and was visiting Los Angeles for a week. We spent most of that time together.

When he left, he promised to call and come back to see me within the month. I had only known him seven days, but our time together had been straight out of a love story. I’d tasted what it’s like being with a good man, and I wanted more. Thus began my first (and last) long-distance relationship.

When he didn’t call after a few days, I got scared. My anxiety got the best of me, so I picked up the phone and called him.

He was distant. He confessed he’d run into an old girlfriend. She thought they should give their relationship another chance. He wasn’t sure how he felt about her and was confused about our situation; he really liked me and didn’t know what to do. He said he needed time to think.

I should have ended the relationship then, but I didn’t. I was overcome with the fear of losing him. There was only one thing I could think of to relieve my pain—I called a psychic.

She assured me Christopher was indeed my “soul mate”. He cared for me deeply and would make the decision to be with me soon. I clung to her words desperately. They gave me hope.

Christopher made plans on two different occasions to come see me. Both times he cancelled at the last minute.

A year flew by and I was still waiting for Christopher. He continued to make

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Because of what I do, the majority of women I talk to are still single after trying to find the right man to marry for years. They’re discouraged and most of them are afraid they’ll never meet the love they’re longing for.  They lose faith that it’s ever going to happen for them as they see the people around them finding partners.

They tell me that because they live in a certain city or small town, there aren’t any men for them to date who’d be a good match. They judge where they live and can’t imagine meeting a man there who they would be attracted to or want to marry.

But it doesn’t make sense that if you live somewhere, no matter how you feel about it; your perfect match wouldn’t be there too. If you’re right for each other, your lives will bring you to where you can finally meet.

If you’re still single after suffering through a lot of failed relationships you may wonder why it hasn’t happened yet. But Let’s face it, he isn’t going to come knocking on your door while you’re watching TV. He won’t just show up one day and ask you out without you making an effort.

You may think there’s nothing you haven’t already tried, so why bother. But there may be things you’ve done in the past that you no longer do to attract love. You need to be ready for a relationship when the right man shows up.

Here are some things you need that you may have forgotten to help you find him, right now.

You need to love yourself. If you don’t believe you’re lovable or deserving of love, you’ll pick the wrong man every time. You’ll pick a man who’s damaged and unable to love you fully. Once you love who you are you’ll be available to accept love from a healthy man.

You need to get out of your house. To have a great love in your life you have to meet him first! If you stay at home and don’t extend yourself into society, how are you going to find a partner? It’s easy to retreat and feel safe, but finding love demands that you take risks and leave your comfort zone.

You need to believe he exists. If there’s truth to idea that our thoughts create our reality, you’ll want to err on the side of belief. Walking through life without hope or faith that there’s someone for you is sad and lonely. It’s like walking through life with blinders on. You’ll only be able to see what you believe, so he could walk right by you without you knowing.

I’m frequently asked if I believe there’s someone for everyone. I always answer with complete confidence; YES OF COURSE! IF YOU EXIST SO DOES HE!