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I’ve never referred to my husband as my ‘soul mate.’ and here’s why.

When I was younger, I was carried away by the romantic idea of meeting my soul mate. I devoured books and movies about people falling in love and knowing they had found their “other half.” I longed to have that same experience. I imagined that somewhere, there was a man who was right for only me.

As I grew older and had a few serious relationships behind me, I began to realize that this “ideal” of finding my soul mate might not be what I was I was led to believe.

With each new relationship, especially in the “infatuation phase,” I believed I’d met my soul mate. But a soul mate isn’t a perfect person; we’re all just human after all, with faults and weaknesses. So when a relationship would end, [continue reading…]

Remember the heady feeling that takes over you when you fall for a new man? The thrill of knowing that someone you’re interested in actually wants and desires you? Suddenly, all sense of not being good enough vanishes and you feel whole again. You feel a sense of confidence in yourself that you think will never go away, you feel you have arrived at a perfect place.

But as you may have discovered — that wonderful sense of yourself disappears and will continue to do so until you create the self-esteem and confidence you want through your own actions.

It took me years to understand this, I was like a yo-yo in and out of relationships, feeling beautiful and invincible one moment, then ugly and worthless the next. I didn’t know what “loving myself” actually meant, I could give it lip-service, but I didn’t have a clue.

If you need improvement in this area here are some ideas that can help you:

1.  Set boundaries for yourself, rules that you stick by that preserve your integrity and protect you from men who don’t have your best interest at heart.

2.  Speak up for yourself, give voice to your opinions and be your own champion. No one else will do this for you. You are the only person who can truly have your best interest at heart all the time. You can only build up your sense of worthiness by taking good care of yourself. [continue reading…]

“I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.”

~Maya Angelou

Have you ever been surprised by a man who seemingly becomes a totally different person than you thought you knew?

When suddenly your sweet mild-mannered date gets out-of-control angry at a driver on the freeway and puts you both at risk as he speeds up to catch the offending car.

Or when your charming, well-mannered date suddenly becomes abusive and nasty to a waitress and refuses to leave her a tip.

When you’ve been dating a man a for a few weeks or even a few months and you really like him, it’s natural for your mind to fill in the blanks about what you don’t know about him yet. [continue reading…]