Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

Being single can be frustrating. It can make us feel lonely and sad as we watch our friends pair up and settle down. It might make us feel hopeless and wonder if it will ever be our turn. But that’s no reason to settle for a relationship that isn’t giving what you want or what you deserve.

Settling for less is an epidemic with women. We will settle for less than we deserve in our careers, in our friendships, and most importantly, in our relationships. It happens so often when we’re dating, and this inevitably results in too much time and energy spent on the wrong man. We end up feeling unsatisfied and far from the way we expected love to feel.

Why do we settle for less? It starts young. As children most of us were instilled with the sense that we’re not good enough; that somehow we’re not worthy of having what we want most: someone to love us. These beliefs create a deep fear in us as adults—fear that we’ll end up loveless and doomed to die alone. Fear makes us lower our standards and accept whatever a man is willing to give, even if it’s much less than we deserve.

How do we know that we’re settling for less? It’s simple. If the love we’re experiencing doesn’t feel good, we’re not getting what we should. Too often we get accustomed to our relationships not feeling right. We become immune to the drama, the pain. We don’t recognize that we don’t feel safe or respected. We don’t know what we’re missing because we’ve never had it. So feeling bad in love ends up feeling normal.

There’s a song by The Everly Brothers called “Love Hurts”, which strikes a chord for many. We believe that pain is the price we pay for loving someone. It seems [continue reading…]

Healthy boundaries in your relationships don’t just happen, they require discipline and will power. I know this sounds about as appealing as going on a diet, but without healthy boundaries you will end up a victim of a man’s bad behavior.

Why do you need to make the effort to stick to your personal boundaries? They give you self-respect. They’re how you take care of and protect your mind, body and spirit. They give you a say in how you want your relationship to unfold; how much to give of yourself and when.

Setting healthy boundaries is the most important skill you need to have successful relationships. However, for many women, this can be very challenging. If you are someone who finds it hard to say “no,” boundaries will be particularly difficult to stick to.

How To Set Healthy Boundaries When Dating:

1. Look back on your past relationships. Identify the things you know you should have done differently. List the mistakes you made that worked against you. I bet the majority, if not all, involved you letting down your boundaries in some way. Take your time with this process, if you’re thorough you’ll most likely find a pattern of behavior.
2. Create a new healthy boundaries list. Use what you’ve learned from your past mistakes to make the changes you need now. See if there are any new boundaries that you would like to add, including social media and internet dating.
3. Determine to make your well-being a priority.  This may sound selfish or self-centered to you — it is! You can’t rely [continue reading…]

If your first date with a man is only mildly interesting and leaves you feeling rather blah, you may be tempted to write him off and move on. Beware: this might be a dating mistake that could affect the rest of your life.

First dates are deceiving. You may decide within the first 10 minutes of meeting someone that you’re not attracted to him and that will color your perception of him for the entire evening. Once you’ve told yourself, “I don’t feel that spark,” your mind could close to the possibility of it ever being kindled.

Since most men and women are looking for instant sexual attraction on the first date, if it’s not there, a second date is out of the question. Without that “special feeling,” you see no reason to see him again.

But there’s something you need to know. It’s been found that about 75% of married women say they married a man who was not their “type.” Now think about that. A man who’s your type turns you on, he’s the man that you spot across a crowded room and are drawn to without being able to help yourself.

That means that if these women married men that they normally wouldn’t be interested in, at some point in the dating process the man became their type. Over time they developed a physical attraction to a man who they normally wouldn’t consider a good match.

What does that mean for you? It means that physical chemistry [continue reading…]