Finding true love is a sacred journey; it’s a path we’ve been “given” to navigate this lifetime. It took me years to stop being at war with my desire for partnership and embrace the call for love within me. And if it wasn’t your journey as well you probably wouldn’t be reading this.

One of the greatest obstacles we must overcome on this path is our sense of separation; our feeling that we are alone. When we have a deep call to love within us life can seem empty, as though we don’t belong. We feel lonely, like we’ll only find peace when we meet our soulmate.

It’s not popular to admit this; we want to give the impression that we are just fine without love. We’ll convince ourselves that self-love is enough. We say that finding true love would be a bonus in an otherwise full life. And this can be true, but not all the time. Just under the surface can lurk a sense of longing, a need for someone we haven’t yet met.

One of the biggest challenges of this love journey is coming to terms with the knowledge that we are indeed lonely.

But lonely is like a four letter word that we dare not utter. We tend to push that feeling down full of shame and guilt. We won’t admit it to friends or family for fear of [continue reading…]

I feel compelled to write this warning to all you wonderful women who have been reading my blog for the last 3 years. I want to tell you about my newest client and give you a heads-up if you’re Internet dating.

Marcie is 52 years old and a highly accomplished woman. She’s recently divorced from a long marriage and has a beautiful 24-year-old daughter. She’s a world traveler and has spent much of her life helping women to find their authentic voice and their true-life path.

She came to me in shame and embarrassment over a very recent experience she had with a man she met on Match.com. It had deeply shaken her confidence and also broken her heart.

It seems a very good-looking man, who lived one town over from her, started pursuing her on Match. He said he was a gemologist and he seemed more interesting and than most of the men she had been meeting.

He said he was ready for a serious relationship, in fact, he told her in the first few days of their correspondence that he was sure she was the perfect woman for him. He was anxious to meet her but a month went by and he just wasn’t able to make that happen; he always had a good excuse why he couldn’t see her.

They emailed at first and then moved on to texting and even phone calls. She began to fall for this man who seemed so loving and so interested in her. Here’s an example of what [continue reading…]

It’s a fact that 93% of our communication is non-verbal, but you can’t depend on non-verbal clues to keep love alive. Ask any woman if she can remember a time when her partner’s words hurt her. She’ll remember every word that was said and also every detail of where it happened and what she was wearing. Words have a huge impact on how good we feel in relationship.

No one gets into a serious relationship thinking it won’t last. When you find someone you think is Mr. Right, a man you can trust and feel safe with, you naturally imagine growing old together. But all too often really good relationships that should last forever just fall apart.

Why does that happen? It’s often because of 3 common communication problems that, if not caught in time, will tear two people apart.

So what are the 3 habits that can kill love?

1. You stop telling the truth. Let’s be real: sometimes telling the truth is hard. We avoid it because we’re afraid of the response we might get or we fear being judged. We might talk ourselves out of it and push it down, telling ourselves we don’t have the time or energy to deal with it. When you avoid confrontation by the “lie of omission,” your resentment will build making you [continue reading…]