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If you don’t stand up for yourself in a relationship, who else will? There are people in this world who are predators and they’ll “prey” on you without thinking twice. It’s as easy for them to make you a victim as it is for you to be one.

One of the most important skills you can learn in life is how to stand up for yourself. If this is hard for you it’s probably because you were never allowed to as a child or when you did you got punished. Like most women, you were most likely raised to put your happiness behind the happiness of others.

I know what it feels like to be victimized; I was a victim for years because of my lack of confidence with men. I didn’t realize I was a victim because it was so familiar, I felt that way all the time. In my book, ‘It’s Never Too Late To Marry,” you can read about how I almost died because I couldn’t say, “no” to one particular man.

I came upon these 11 Human Rights by author and hypnotherapist Dick Sutphen years ago. They gave me pause. I’m going to share them with you because I think they will make you think and maybe even make you a little uncomfortable. You might not agree with every one of them, but you will resonate with a few.

The 11 Human Rights

1. You have the right to do anything as long as you do not purposely hurt someone else and you are willing to accept the consequences.
2. You have the right to maintain your self-respect by [continue reading…]

Do you need more intimacy in your relationship? This may be a hard question to answer. You may be experiencing “physical intimacy” with a man but you can mistake that for being truly intimate. But there comes a time after you’ve been dating a while when you have to ask yourself — am I feeling emotionally close to him?

You might care for your man deeply but struggle with the fact you can’t get him to open up to you beyond having somewhat superficial conversations. You try to tell him more of what you’re thinking and feeling but find that he’s not reciprocating.

If this pattern of staying “on the surface of things” becomes part of your relationship, you’ll find yourself adapting and being afraid to bring up topics that are important to you. You’ll have an inner knowing that if you ask for more intimacy in your relationship you may scare him away or displease him by burdening him with your thoughts.

A relationship where you have to limit your conversations to subjects that you know are “safe” can go on for months or even years. When you enter an unspoken agreement of what subjects are off limits with a man you end up sharing everything with him except your true self.

Holding yourself back from more intimacy is emotionally painful and will leave you with anxiety and stress.

I understand how bad this can feel because for years I went out with men who were entertaining and fun, but pretty much unavailable for meaningful or deep conversation. It was like they projected a barrier around themselves that said, “Don’t bother me with your stuff, I’m not interested in going there with you.”

Here are 3 ways to create more intimacy in your relationship:

• You need to find the courage to speak up. You’re half of the couple and your [continue reading…]

When I was in my 20’s I couldn’t wait for the next issue of Cosmopolitan Magazine to hit the newsstands. It was always packed full of irresistible articles with titillating headlines like “Secrets to Drive Him Crazy in Bed.” The magazine cleverly focused on men and sex and sold millions of copies to insecure and confused women like myself.

I can say with authority that nothing has changed in “Cosmo world” in forty plus years and this is how I know.

I took my car for an oil change. As I waited on a very uncomfortable lumpy couch I noticed the August 2012 issue of “Cosmopolitan” on the table. Not having looked at one in so long I couldn’t resist.  I hungrily reached for it and began to read.

I wasn’t disappointed. The first article I opened to was titled, “The #1 Quality Men Want in Bed.” Well, that’ easy I thought.

I assumed the answer would be “confidence,” which I equate with a woman being comfortable with herself. But  they had asked this question to 200 men and confidence came in second. It turns out the #1 quality they found men want in bed is [continue reading…]