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by Virginia Clark
on July 5, 2012
Do you ever wake up in the middle of the night full of doubt and fear? Doubts can be insidious, especially in the early morning hours.
During the day you may be feeling really positive about your future and having the marriage of your dreams, but then you find yourself awake at 3:00 AM and your thoughts about the future suddenly seem scary and overwhelming.
You lose your sense of hope and worry and fear takes over. Your positive beliefs about having the relationship you want have disappeared and you’re left feeling very much alone.
The peace you had yesterday is gone and all you can see is the depressing dark unknown ahead. You are left tossing and turning with worry.
Why do we have these early morning negative thoughts? Why do we wake up full of doubt?
Well, the answer is simple; it’s the time when your subconscious comes to the forefront and it can bring up old fears and associations from the past. Sometimes your bad feelings will have been triggered by a dream you were having just before you woke up. The negative feelings that flood over you have nothing to do with your present situation, but they will attach themselves to it. This causes you to feel worry, doubt and anxiety. Late at night your defenses are down and you are vulnerable..Full of doubt? What you can do to help yourself
Full of doubt: here’s what you can do.
Recognize that these thoughts are not real, and you will feel differently when the sun shines. You can then direct your thoughts to things you choose to think about.
One of the best ways to distract yourself and fall back asleep is to [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on July 2, 2012
Take a look at the patterns in your life…
- Do you put off doing things you don’t want to do or do you take care of things right away?
- Do you put other people’s needs in front of your own or you take care of yourself first?
- Do you look outside of yourself for validation or do you avoid judgment at all costs?
How you show up in your relationships will be reflected in the other areas of your life. If you have a poverty mentality around money, you might have that same mentally when it comes to love. You might think that love is limited to others, that there’s not enough to go around and that love is dependent on someone outside yourself giving it to you.
When you change your beliefs for the better in one area of your life it will affect all areas; many times in ways you never expected.
Your patterns of behavior are ingrained in your subconscious mind, making it difficult for you to see what your subconscious patterns are. We all have blind spots when it comes to seeing ourselves objectively.
Look around at some of your friends, can you see their subconscious patterns reflected in the way they approach their lives? I bet you have some friends you just want to take by the shoulders and shake saying, “Look at how you’re causing all this trouble for yourself!”
How do you change your unwanted behavioral patterns? You have to [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on June 22, 2012
Don’t make the dating mistake of being overly concerned about how you’re coming across to a man. Don’t lose yourself and become preoccupied with what a man is feeling. Don’t try to figure out the right thing to say to impress him.
If you can’t stop yourself from worrying about what he’s thinking, you won’t be able to relax and enjoy yourself. If you’re constantly afraid that you’re going to make a mistake or say something wrong it will take all the joy out of dating and ruin the experience for you both.
Can you imagine what it’s like for a man to be with a woman who can’t think of anything except the impression she’s making on him? This kind of dating mistake really spoils the mood.
So what’s going on when you’re hypersensitive to his feelings about you? You are letting your instincts, your primitive “fight or flight” response, give you false messages about what’s going on based on fear. It triggers the panicky feeling you get if his attention wanders away from you during a conversation, or that clutching feeling in your stomach when you see him looking at another woman across the room.
Paying too much attention to what a man is thinking will [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on June 12, 2012
One of the hardest qualities you’ll have to cultivate as a single woman waiting for love is patience.
Let’s face it, waiting for anything is stressful: waiting for the light to turn green, for the bank teller to finish with a customer or waiting for the man of your dreams.
When I was single my well-meaning friends would smile at me and tell me to stop worrying and just be patient. I wanted to scream at them, “You don’t understand how I feel, how long I’ve been waiting!” I know I was being overly dramatic but I couldn’t stop myself. In my mind I was cursing and raging at being single and making myself terribly unhappy.
The idea that I had to be patient waiting for love was simply annoying and seemed impossible. It took years of pain for me to get the maturity I needed to change my attitude and stop waiting for love. In time I began to appreciate the gift of each day and to believe my Mr. Right would show up.
It’s painful to be constantly in a state of wanting something you don’t have. If this is you, [continue reading…]
Release what’s been standing in the way of finding your special someone.
