Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

“We need in love to practice only this: letting each other go. For holding on comes easily, we do not need to learn it.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

This quote isn’t about letting go of a relationship that’s not working, it’s about letting go of your attachment to a man that’s unhealthy and ultimately destructive to love. You learned to form this kind of attachment when you were young — and part of becoming a mature woman is growing out of it.

Do you remember how you “loved” when you were a teenager? I do. I had “crushes” on boys and spent hours daydreaming about them. I not only longed for boys I saw at school, but I also became obsessed imagining myself with various young actors and singers.

I recognize this now and smile to myself when I see my friend’s daughters so enthralled with a teenage heartthrob like Justin Beiber. I was at the bookstore yesterday and a girl, maybe 13 yrs. old, was begging her mother to buy her a book on the 17 yr. old singer’s life. She pleaded with her mom saying, “I promise you I’ll read it every day!”

I didn’t think her mother would give in to her pleading, as much as she wants her daughter to read. I was right. As they walked away the girl was distraught and [continue reading…]

Have you ever wondered “Does he love me?” Have you ever put your life on hold while you waited for a man to make up his mind about you? I have. I waited two very long years for a man to decide whether to move to Los Angeles to be with me.

Can you guess how that turned out? Do you think he made the move? The answer’s in my book “It’s Never Too Late to Marry” in Chapter 7, but I’ll tell you now.

Not only did he not move to LA, he never even made a decision — by his inaction, he forced me to finally make the decision for him and breakup with him.

You might be wondering how I could stop looking for my Mr. Right and wait for a man to be with me for so long. Well I must confess that, like him, I too had the inability to act. I kept myself stuck in this ridiculous situation because I told myself I was confused.

I had many reasons to be confused about him. I stayed confused when he told me an old girlfriend had come back into his life and she wanted to see him again. I stayed confused when he confessed they were seeing each other — but only as friends. I stayed confused when [continue reading…]

Does it feel like you do all the work in your relationships? That if you didn’t make things happen everything would fall apart?

For years this was my biggest problem with men. I was constantly trying to revive my connection with a man for fear that if I stopped our connection would die.

As women we have the tendency to make things happen. Most of us are “doers” and “givers.” I bet you’re always there for your friends and family whenever there’s a need. It’s tempting to take care of others, it feels good to know you’re helping people and to think that they need you. But in a love relationship, relationship CPR is the destroyer of lasting love.

How do you know if you’re doing CPR in your relationships? Well for one, you always try to keep things running smoothly. You’re hyper-vigilant about taking care of the details, so you don’t rock the boat. Your man’s wellbeing is your priority at the expense of your own.

Here are some typical relationship CPR indicators that you may recognize:

~ You feel on edge and unable relax around a man

~ You feel exhausted and stressed most of the time

~ You constantly worry about the future and how things should be

What does it look like when you are always the “doer?” [continue reading…]