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It may be a life-long dream, or an idea you’ve finally embraced after years of being single — whatever your situation — I bet somewhere in the depths of your mind you have a nagging, desperate feeling that marriage is never going to happen for you.
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by Virginia Clark
on April 28, 2012
After a breakup, particularly one you didn’t initiate, you may find your confidence crushed. Your mind jumps from being rejected by one man to all the men who ever left you in the past and all the men you think will ever leave you in the future. You blow up this one breakup into meaning the end of love in your life forever. If this is you, you’re not alone. Many women, including myself, have felt the deep devastation of a breakup and felt it was the end of the world.
Unless you have great self-esteem, the time after a breakup brings out your biggest doubts: Was I sexy enough? Why wasn’t I enough for him?
A great way to help you get out of pain of self-judgment is to pay attention to your physical body. Yes, really!
After a breakup you’re looking for a reason and it’s hard to get the painful thoughts out of your head. The quickest way to stop your negative thinking is to interrupt it by moving your attention from your mind into your body. Awareness of your body is grounding and in most cases it will bring you “back to yourself.”
Here are three great ways to get your sexy back:
- Dance your ass off. Dancing is therapeutic and makes the endorphins flow. Do it at home where you can dance with abandon because no one is watching. Put on the favorite music of your youth and let go, just like Tom Cruise in “Risky Business.” Or go out to dance. Western dancing is great because they’re a lot of men who come alone and [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on April 24, 2012
There are strong opinions about couples living together before marriage — both pro and con. Many factors need to go into that decision and there’s not one right answer for everyone.
The question of living together before marriage comes up at some point in a serious relationship. But if you’re thinking of moving in with a man you’re not engaged to in the hopes that he will come to the decision to marry you, you might want to proceed with caution.
According to The National Institute of Child Health and Human Development reports:
- Living together is considered to be more stressful than being married.
- Just over 50% of first cohabiting couples ever get married.
- In the United States and in the UK, couples who live together are at a greater risk for divorce than non-cohabiting couples.
- Couples who lived together before marriage tend to divorce early in their marriage. If their marriage last seven years, then their risk for divorce is the same as couples who didn’t cohabit before marriage.
What does this mean for you? I’m not a researcher, I can only tell you about [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on April 19, 2012
Your mindset is everything when it comes to helping you find love. I’m not just talking about romantic love, I’m talking about love overall. Love is a state of mind that either is or isn’t something you cultivate.
Wikipedia defines mindset as:
“A set of assumptions, methods or notations held by one or more people…that creates a powerful incentive within these people or groups to continue to adopt or accept prior behaviors, choices, or tools.”
The fact is your mindset is how you approach the world, and if you let it run wild it will compel you to make the same choices over and over again. No one is exempt from having a mindset, we all have one. It is like a filter through which you perceive your reality. Your mindset, like a bad habit, has a shadow side. The shadow is devious and makes unable to see that we have any particular mindset at all. It tricks us into believing it’s just the way we think — no big deal.
If you are having trouble in your romantic life, it’s time to check your mindset and see if it needs an adjustment. If you even think your mindset might be causing problems, you can determine to change it. Like breaking any habit, it requires effort and determination.
To help you see if your mindset is on track to find love, ask yourself:
- Have you created the right environment to attract love? How you set up your life and personal space will tell you a lot. If you don’t pay attention to how you’re living and what you come home to at night, you aren’t “setting the stage” for the love you want. Surround yourself with [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on April 12, 2012
One reason your relationships tend to fail is that you start out well enough, but then slowly, without realizing it, you start to give away your power. This process is insidious and before you know it, instead of having a healthy give and take, the relationship has lost its balance. When you give your power away it erodes your self-esteem and you start to feel a sense of unease and resentment. This affects how you show up as half of a couple and can’t help but create tension and dissatisfaction.
Giving up your power never feels good, though it may feel comfortable. It’s a habit you may be repeating without your awareness.
How you’re giving your power away in relationships
- You avoid conflict: No one enjoys conflict in a relationship, but all too often a woman will ask me, “How do I confront him with this?” I then ask her why she’s using the word “confront?” Why not consider how you may have an adult discussion about a problem. If you frame it in your mind as a confrontation, of course you’ll want to avoid that. If you think you’re someone who avoids conflicts, you might want to learn some new skills on how to appropriately present your needs.
- You’re afraid of what others will think: If you find yourself not quite being honest to your friends and family about the state of your relationship, you’re doing yourself a great disservice. You’re at risk of starting to believe your “lies” and not facing the truth about what is hurting you. You may be embarrassed or you may [continue reading…]
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