Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

There’s nothing more gut wrenching than the breaking up of a relationship you’ve been totally invested in. You’re not just losing a man, you are experiencing the end of the dream you had for your future together.

People will tell you to “get over it.” They’ll finally be straight with you and admit that they never thought he was a good boyfriend for you in the first place. They’ll tell you they never saw you two together for the long run.

Then they will give you all the reasons you should be happy it’s over. How breaking up with him was the best thing for both of you, after all he never treated you well, he didn’t support your interests, and he kept you from your family and friends.

This belated advice and unsolicited opinions will just fuel the fire of you longing to have him back. Your friends mean well, but they’re not meeting you where you are; in the deep pain of your loss.

So how do you survive breaking up with a man you are still in love with and can’t get out of your mind? You have to [continue reading…]

What is it that men really want from a woman? There’s so much conflicting information on this topic that women become frustrated and confused. Even so, the desire to know the answer pulls woman in like a carrot dangled in front of a hungry horse.

But there’s a danger to getting this question answered; it preys on the belief that if you knew what men really want, you could give it to them and they would like you.

There’s nothing wrong with asking the question, but how you apply the answer in your relationships is all important. I’ve talked to countless women who are trying to figure out what men really want so they can get a man to fall in love with them. They start to strategize what they will say and how they will act to please and appeal to a man’s sensibilities. This is not necessarily a wrong thing to do, but if it’s taken to an extreme and you start to change who you are and how you show up in a relationship, it will rob you of an authentic connection with a man.

When you think about it, how alike are all women in their thinking and their reactions? When you look at your women friends, are they all attracted [continue reading…]

I know many of you may be surprised at my lack of sentimentality and disdain for this manufactured-to-produce-not-love-but-guilt and-self-pity holiday called Valentine’s Day. Seriously, my husband and I do nothing on this day except avoid all restaurants. To my thinking, there’s nothing less romantic that being made to feel like you HAVE to be. It’s similar to being an actor, bringing up emotions on cue.

My favorite color, red, is suddenly everywhere, I’m on red-overload, making me start to crave anything lavender or green. Red objects over-flow several aisles at the grocery stores, as more and more space seems devoted to this day for ‘couples.’ Shelves are piled with bags of cheap chocolates in red and silver wrapping, boxes of hard candies and red candles. I wonder what they will do with all the leftover stuff once the day passes, maybe save it for the next guilt-inducing V-Day.

Is anyone else besides me sick of looking at hearts? The card racks are full of them and store windows are full of heart balloons. People are suddenly enthralled with those small sugar hearts with words on them that taste like chalk. They’re everywhere — in bowls at the veterinarian’s office, the manicurist and even at dentist (not very good for the teeth!).

All the red candies and all the hearts begin to pull on me, dragging on my conscience. I begin to feel the pressure to buy something for my husband. I know not to do this from experience because he’s worse about V. day than I am. One year for fun, I bought him a sterling silver key chain with the date February 15th inscribed on it. He still wasn’t [continue reading…]