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Are you too needy in your relationships? If you are you’ll end up sabotaging them even when you’ve found a good man! The most recurring problem women tell me about is their inability to maintain a long and committed relationship with a man because of their constant sense of neediness.

So what are some of the main ways you can be too needy and cause yourself constant heartbreak and disappointment with men?

1. Your neediness can show up as possessiveness and jealousy. There is nothing more miserable than being overwhelmed by your own sense of not being good enough. It makes you clingy and overly attentive to a man’s every move while you ignore your own feelings and needs.
2. You determine to set good boundaries for yourself but you can’t maintain them because you are worried that the man won’t like you. This can result in you getting intimate with a man before you know that he’s committed to you or letting him treat you in a way that makes you feel like you’re not a priority in his life.
3. You’ll hold back your feelings and opinions with a man so you won’t disagree with him and rock the boat. If he thinks you agree with him you won’t be judged as wrong. You’ll also avoid any conflict that could erupt from you expressing your personal opinions.

If you’re too needy and dependent on a man you will be a slave to your feelings. It will keep you in chains of desperation and you will never be able to relax and be yourself with a man.

There is only one cure for being too needy: emotional freedom!  What does emotional freedom feel like when you’re in a relationship? It feels like confidence.

As opposed to being too needy in your relationship, you’re no longer dependent on the man you are with to make you feel safe, worthy or loved.

Too needy in your relationship: Stop being the victim

Emotional freedom requires that you stop seeing yourself as a victim. It requires that you take responsibility for your feelings and act on them accordingly. When you take on your emotions as “your problem” you create less drama in your relationships…less anger, blame and resentment.

When you’ve worked on yourself and are no longer being needy and desperate in your relationships you will find not only emotional freedom but a great sense of worthiness that you create for yourself and that no one can take away from you.

Many of you will meet your future husband on line. Here are some tips to help that happen sooner rather than later. Online dating can feel like “it’s a jungle out there” or like walking through land mines; but if you follow these few tips, you can save yourself a lot of time and heartache.

Online Dating Advice:

1. Don’t let a man “seduce” you into writing lengthy emails back and forth.  Some men will pour out their feelings and thoughts and go to great lengths to express themselves in writing. If you respond in kind you’re taking up a lot of your precious time writing. It may be creative, but it’s not the best way to find out if the two of  you are compatible. You need to have a conversation with a man to find out if  you really have something in common.

2. Beware of a man who criticizes your profile or tries to “correct” your thinking. Already you have a big red flag that indicates he will be hard to please. Such men are just looking to prove that they know best. They’re usually arrogant and looking for a submissive woman to boost their ego to make them feel superior.

3. Don’t let a man talk you into cutting corners by not following the rules of the dating site. It’s likely they have something to hide that following the rules would reveal.

4. Watch out for men who put it on you to call them. Most men appreciate that women want and need to feel pursued. By asking you to call them, they are placing the responsibility of getting together on you. This can indicate a man with passive aggressive tendencies. It can also be a man who is afraid to take risks and who would rather play it safe.

This online dating advice might sound like common sense, but when you’re really desirous for a relationship you may be tempted to let your standards slide.

My best online dating advice: If you’ve made mistakes, don’t repeat them, learn from them

If you have any online dating advice tips that could benefit other women, share them here. Happy dating!

A client asked me this question during a phone consultation. She’s 45 yrs. old, divorced, and had been enjoying being in a good relationship for over a year. She’s happy with her boyfriend and she felt he was her Mr. Right.

Her only problem was that they had hit a comfortable plateau and she longed for him to take their relationship to the next level. She wanted to get him to commit to her fully, maybe even give her an engagement ring. She wanted to say something to him for months but was afraid she’d scare him away.

She’d hoped that when she met Mr. Right everything would be easy and the relationship would just naturally deepen. That hadn’t happened and she didn’t know how to speak up to get him to commit to her.

Here’s my advice for her and any women in this situation:

Get him to commit: Just ask, it’s better to know the truth now, than 3 years from now!