Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

If you’re dating a married man you’re probably suffering. I say that because no matter how much you may love him or how much he says he loves you, your situation at the moment is not what you want it to be. Your future happiness with him depends on circumstances changing and until that happens you are stuck with the way things are.

A woman wrote to me and asked me what to do. She felt she had met the perfect man for her, but he was married. She’s been meeting him once a week for 3 months and they’ve gotten physically intimate.

She’s in love with a married man and she’s only 24-years-old. She doesn’t have the life experience that could have helped her make a better decision — but it doesn’t matter what your age, we are all susceptible to temptation. It’s how we handle ourselves when we know we’re in trouble that makes all the difference.

Involved with a married man: It’s going to be a bumpy ride!

Here is a video I made inspired by her question. Is a married man off limits? Do you agree with me? I would love to hear what you have to say…especially if you’ve been in, or are in this situation.

Are you, like Beyonce, looking for a man to “put a ring on it?” You’re certainly not alone; but maybe like many women, you’re ashamed to admit it. You can want to get married but not do what is needed to make it happen.

My client Marsha’s boyfriend recently brought up the subject of marriage in conversation. He told her about a friend’s wedding and then went on to reveal that the wedding he saw in his future would be small and intimate.

This presented the perfect opportunity for them to begin a discussion on marriage. But instead she found herself unable to say anything in return except a hesitant, Me too.

She was afraid to say anything more. The thought of him knowing how much she wanted to get married made her feel ashamed and desperate. She was embarrassed for him to know what she wanted, sure that he would see her as needy.

He certainly wasn’t afraid to bring up the subject, so why did the idea of even talking about marriage make her feel so insecure and frightened?

As she worked her way through her confusion she came to an important realization — she was afraid to admit what she really wanted because she didn’t believe she deserved it. She was protecting herself from getting her hopes up and being disappointed.

How many times have you, like Marsha, said to yourself I want to get married but found yourself holding back in some way? You can be sabotaging your dream of marriage by picking the wrong men or giving up and not making an effort.

You have to take your desire seriously and not be ashamed. You have it for a reason. You have to make it important enough for you to pursue it fully without doubt.

If marriage is what you want say it with 100% conviction: I want to get married!

You can’t worry what a man, or anyone will think. To manifest what you want, you have to believe you can.

Life won’t hand you much on a silver platter — most of the time you have to ask for what you want. If there’s a reason you’re not fully invested in your dream of marriage, if you’re ashamed or feeling unworthy, do the work you need to change it. Don’t stop until you’re fully behind your desire.

There’s a reason Beyonce’s song is so popular; it’s bold and it’s honest. She’s not afraid to let it be known: “I want to get married, so put a ring on it!”

It’s a fact that most of you will have to date before you meet the man you’re going to marry.

Maybe you feel like I felt. I had a really hard time with this, I didn’t want to date. I rebelled against it by refusing to put myself out into that world. After all, when I was younger, I just seemed to “fall into relationships” and there was no formal dating involved. I expected (and hoped) that would continue.

But as I got older, it no longer happened that way. I ended up not having contact with eligible men for long periods of time. It just wasn’t as easy to meet men anymore.

So I was forced to give in and start the dating process. I joined a dating service, but I did so with a great deal of reluctance. I had no confidence in my ability to date. In fact, I was not good at dating, I made a multitude of dating mistakes and it became more evident when I only had first dates and no second ones.

If I had learned a few common sense “rules of dating” I would have had a much better time of it. Here are 3 dating mistakes that will save you a lot of time and heartache. If you can avoid them, it will greatly improve your ability to meet and recognize the right man for you.

My top 3 Dating Mistakes: Reasons to stop seeing him!

1. Don’t let sexual attraction run the show! You know what I’m talking about. You’re not feeling attracted to a man so you write him off before you even get to know him or see what it’s like to kiss him. Or you’re so attracted to him that you break all your rules about what you will and won’t do and let your body take over. You get sexual too quick and loose your sense of perspective and your integrity in process.

2. Don’t allow a man to give you crumbs! If the man you are dating is not treating with respect he’s wasting your time and you need to move on. Here are some of the ways crumbs show up in dating: making plans with you at the last minute, asking you to pay for yourself on the first date, making you go out of your way to meet him, disregarding your preferences for food or entertainment, not showing you a good time other than getting you in bed.

3. Don’t date a man who tries to control you! At first it may seem flattering that he’s so concerned about you, but it can turn dangerous. Men who want to control usually start out slow but the controlling behavior escalates in time. Here are some ways that controling shows up. He starts to change how you dress for your dates, including how you wear your hair and makeup. He’ll be critical of your friends and family hoping to have more influence over you and have you all to himself. He’ll start to dictate what you should eat and how much you drink. He’ll “check in” many times a day, making sure you’re where you said you’d be. He gets jealous and possessive for no reason.

Be kind to yourself. You weren’t born knowing how to kiss a man, save money or drive a car. You’re going to make dating mistakes until you learn how to date successfully. If you can avoid these 3 mistakes you’ll be much better off and leave yourself available to meet the right man for you.

Learn more in “It’s Never Too Late to Marry,” Chapter 8: Date For You