Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

I just heard a report on the morning news that said many women are now choosing to stay single, in fact the new statistic is that 50% of women in the US are single now as opposed to 30% in the 1960’s.

This is good news — but not for the reason you may think.

It’s good because it lessons the stigma on not being married and it helps single women feel better about themselves.

When I was younger there was a great amount of pressure on me to get married. Because of that, after the age of 30, I felt like something was wrong with me.

There is nothing worse than feeling that people are looking at you with pity because you’re single, but now with the acceptance of this is a new trend, you don’t have to feel that you owe anyone an explanation for your single status.

If you’re single, you can actually relish it and not feel ashamed or embarrassed as I did.

There is nothing wrong with choosing not to marry, if that’s what you want. But if marriage is your desire, don’t give up on it. My marriage has been the biggest blessing in my life, partly because I got my strongest wish fulfilled and because it helped me become the woman I was meant to be.

It amazes me to think that if I hadn’t gotten married I would never have written my book “It’s Never Too Late To Marry” (which is a great read if I do say so myself) and I would never have been sharing with you what I’ve learned through my writing and coaching.

If marriage is your heart’s desire, there’s a reason that desire was put there…pursue it and don’t stop till it’s yours.

Most women love to talk and connect. If you meet an interesting woman at an event or party it’s not unusual to quickly find yourself in a deep conversation.

Women are capable of establishing strong, emotional connections with another women in a very short time. Too bad it’s not as easy with men; then it’s a whole new ball game. You’re suddenly at a loss, not quite knowing how to act or what to say.

Let’s face it, first dates are hard and you may be putting too much pressure on yourself to be “perfect.” If on top of that you find yourself with an uncommunicative man, well that’s a recipe for disappointment.

The most common mistake is feeling that it’s your responsibility to make the date work. When things don’t go smoothly, you begin to panic and talk too much. To make things worse, you may compensate by trying to be entertaining and witty. Meanwhile nothing you’re doing is working, he continues to give you single syllable answers: “yes,” “no” or a grunt.

On the other hand, his silence could do just the opposite and make you clam up. You [continue reading…]

I’ve written a good deal about bad boys; how to recognize them and avoid getting your heart broken. But bad boys aren’t the only dangerous men out there — you need to watch out for the “super nice guys” as well.

What’s so dangerous about a super nice guy?

Well, just like a super nice women,  super nice guys bend over backwards not to hurt your feelings. They want to avoid conflict at any cost and so they “make nice.” They shy away from expressing how they feel about things if they think you won’t agree.

The danger of getting involved with a super nice guy is that they send mixed messages about how they feel. They’ll be open with you and yet something doesn’t feel quite right. He’ll talk about the future and express just what you want to hear; he’ll tell you he wants marriage and kids. Naturally you assume that since you’re dating him his future dreams would include you. But do they? Something doesn’t seem quite right and you can’t put your finger on it. You find yourself second-guessing your feelings and questioning the truth of your relationship.

Here’s what makes this situation so hard. A super nice guy really cares about you, he enjoys your company. But he is so nice he would do anything to avoid hurting your [continue reading…]