Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

If you need a good laugh I suggest you go see the movie “Bridesmaids.” You will relate to many of the romantic entanglements of the women portrayed no matter what you’re history.

This movie shows how marriage isn’t such a great thing UNLESS you are married to the right man. Most of the women in this movie are not — and you can see the results of being part of an unhappy couple.

The movie also portrays the frustration of what it’s like being with a man “who is just not that into you.” For example, how familiar is the insecurity you feel the first time you wake up with a man in the morning without your make-up? Or the humiliation of knowing that you are not special enough “to stay the night.”

This film will most likely give you an ah-ha moment or two. It will also give you the opportunity to laugh at yourself (in a good way). It’s a great reminder not to take yourself [continue reading…]

Don’t be so hard on yourself if you find that you’ve “fallen in love” with the wrong man again.

Dating is when you discover what it is you want and don’t want in a man. As a woman it’s easy to lose your objectivity and bond too quickly with a man after only a short time –especially if you get intimate early on.

But dating is designed for you to learn more about a man, to get to know him in different circumstances, to discover who he is and to see if over time he’ll turn out to the kind of man who is the right match for you.

It’s natural to date men to whom you are sexually attracted. You’ll also date men who are charming and fun to be with. You’ll date men who have your same interests and enjoy sharing and talking with them about what is important to you.

But soon, to your dismay, some of the magic you felt may begin to wear off, as you begin to realize that you are not such a good match after all. Just because a man fits into one [continue reading…]

Here is a question I received from Robin. Her problem is not unique and hopfully you can benefit from my answer.

“I have been dating a man for four months.  We have been an exclusive couple for the past 2 months.  However, 2 weekends ago, he told me he was getting messages from one of the dating sites when he was checking his e-mails.  I asked him if he was back on the site and he told me he needed to go in and delete it.  But he is still on the site and talking to women (he just happened to send a wink to one of my friends).  So my question is, how do I handle this?  I am absolutely devastated as I thought we really had something good going.”

Hi Robin,

I am glad you asked this question now and not years from now. You’ve been with this man for 4 short months but I can tell that you are very invested in him as you are already an “exclusive” couple. But in truth, you hardly know each other at this stage. These early months are when you should be learning more about each other and figuring out if you are a good fit.

You are both still in the “infatuation stage.” And because you still have on your rosy glasses it’s important to pay attention to his actions — not only his words.

The behavior you’ve described is a definite red-flag that you [continue reading…]