What To Do When He Cheats And Leaves

Breaking up is hard enough, but when there’s another woman involved, it’s doubly difficult. It doesn’t matter if she is drop dead beautiful or plain as toast; either way feels like someone just stuck a knife in your back.

When another woman comes into the picture it’s particularly hard to overcome the heartbreak. It feels as though you’re out of control; that everything’s gone crazy. Any chance you might have had to work things out is gone because now he has a new woman in his life.

Your shattered ego will desperately try to repair its hurt pride. It will urge you to find out why this happened. You’ll scrutinize his feelings and begin to assume all kinds of reasons why he picked her over you. You think that finding an explanation will make you feel better.

This won’t fix your heartbreak, you’ll only end up blaming yourself for lacking something that you imagine she must have.

The first thing you have to do is let go of trying to figure out what happened and why. I know it’s easier said than done, but you’ll tend to build her up in her mind because she “has” him and you don’t. If you focus too much on her and make her the “bad guy,” you’ll get distracted from the truth of the situation. He made the discussion to be with her and it’s on him that he broke up with you.

Here are 4 things you can do to help you get through the break-up faster while keeping your self-esteem in tact.

1. Avoid the temptation to find out everything you can about her. Don’t seek out her friends and ask them questions.
2. Don’t go to Google, Facebook or Twitter and search for her. It will only intensify your heartbreak.
3. If you know her, stop comparing yourself to her. You know what I mean; don’t dwell on who’s prettier, thinner, younger, smarter or more successful.
4. Don’t discuss her with your friends and family. In fact, don’t talk about her anytime with anyone.

You’ve probably heard that whatever you put your attention on expands. Keep that in mind as you put your thoughts back on to your life and what you want to create for yourself. The less you dwell on both of them and your heartbreak, the better off you’ll be and the more grounded you’ll feel.

When he cheats and leaves it’s the pits.

It doesn’t seem fair that someone can just “take” your man away from you, but as time passes you’ll come to realize that she wasn’t the cause of your break-up. If the two of you were meant to be together for the long run your relationship would have stuck.

It doesn’t mean you weren’t really in love! It’s just the connection between the two of you wasn’t strong enough to bare the test of time, and actually it’s a good thing that you found out sooner rather than later.

I promise you, in time you will look back and be grateful that things turned out the way they did.