New Year’s Eve is one of those “couple centric holidays” that many of us dread. The pressure of not having a date on New Year’s Eve can be more daunting than not having one for Valentine’s Day.
Add to that the fear that how we end last year will have a bearing on how the New Year will unfold. It’s a superstition that’s hard to fight. If you have no one to kiss at midnight, it doesn’t bode well for your love life in the year ahead. It can leave you feeling totally discouraged and hopeless about finding love…ever.
It’s natural to feel depressed being dateless on the biggest “date night” of the year. You know there’s a fabulous party going on but you don’t know where and anyway, you’re not invited. You won’t have the opportunity to wear your favorite dress and heels. You won’t be dancing with a funny hat and blowing a noisemaker at midnight. You won’t be toasting with expensive champagne or looking deeply into a man’s eyes as you embrace and share a passionate kiss.
But you know what, you can have that experience next year if that’s what you want, and in the meantime you can have a fabulous and exciting New Years, setting the stage for next year, dedicated to you getting the love you want.
Here are five great ways to survive being single on New Years Eve:
1. Dress up! It’s one of those times to forget the rules. On New Year’s Eve anything goes so do yourself up in way that makes you feel good. Don’t worry about being “age appropriate” or too outrageous. Clothes will alter your feelings so play around with glitter, velvet, or lace — go for those things that feel festive and express your “Inner Diva.”
2. Think new! Explore an interest or a hobby you’ve only fantasized about. Find a meet-up group or class that will inspire you to get started or go out and buy the materials you need to begin. This will “inform” your subconscious mind that you are open to new experiences and ready to expand your life in the New Year.
3. Write a love letter! Write to yourself about all the good things you experienced in the last year. Express appreciation to yourself for the challenges you faced and how well you overcame them. Remind yourself about the people you’ve helped and how you made a difference in their lives. Sign it with love, address it to yourself and drop it in the mailbox
4. Make a date! Select a place you want to visit in the next month. Make it somewhere that will speak to your soul. Choose a ranch where you can ride horses or cabin by a lake. Visit a friend who lives far away. Whatever you decide, make the reservations and the arrangements now. Leaving the comfort of home will impress your subconscious mind that you are open for more adventure and fun in your life
5. Buy a present! Chose a gift that will remind you of your wish for romance in the New Year. A ring or a bracelet you put on everyday can help you remember that you have the intention of finding love in 2012. A picture in a pretty frame on you bedside table is another great reminder. It doesn’t have to be fancy, it just needs to be meaningful to you
Survive being single on New Year’s Eve: If you do these 5 things it will pass by before you know it and all the anticipation and craziness will over.
Another way to survive being single on New Year’s Eve is to know that every New Year’s Eve you’re single brings you closer to the New Year’s when you won’t be! So hold that thought and believe that you can make 2012 a year for love and celebration!